Defeating Bedroom Persecution!

On Wednesday, I introduced a touchy (no pun intended) subject whose correlation to Kingdom PERSECUTION might be missed by the casual cultural observer.

The subject? Erotica aimed at women — a.k.a. Romance Porn or Mommy Porn. A multi-billion-dollar industry that lures women (including Christians) into its net, under the guise of romance and redeeming love.

But how does this genre correlate to Kingdom PERSECUTION? Because what it glorifies, at its core, is inherently and intentionally hostile to Christianity.

Can anyone miss the overt, denigrating references to Christianity in Fifty Shades of Grey? Far beyond naming the leading man, Christian? The “hero” who defines “commitment” as contractual Bondage, Dominance, Sadism and Masochism?

There is no shortage of references to the addictive power of romance novels. Novels of escape and excitement… that also nurture unrealistic expectations and demands on husbands and marriages… plus growing dissatisfaction and loneliness. AND

Addictions provoke progression, moving victims to higher levels of consumption to achieve similar effects. Culminating in devastation… for addicts and those impacted by their behavior.

Dr. Victor Cline — clinical psychologist/sexual addictions specialist, University of Utah — observed this four-step syndrome among pornography addicts. Step 1 – Addiction. Step 2 – Escalation. Step 3 – Desensitization (viewing as acceptable and commonplace what was once perceived as unthinkable, shocking, illegal, repulsive or immoral). Step 4 – Acting Out Sexually (living the observed behaviors).

Are not Fifty Shades of Grey (and countless erotica alternatives) Step 3 incarnate? Leading its addicts (including Christian women) to the victimization of Step 4?

Who’s responsible?

The Church, in part? In its zeal to rightly advocate sexual purity and holiness, have we failed to acknowledge that God created us all with sexual longings meant to be fulfilled in godly and God-honoring intimacy?

When was the last time you had a serious, sensitive conversation about this in Church?

The problem is not the longings, but the counterfeit fulfillments the Adversary uses to entice, seduce, and ensnare. Jesus calls him the thief with only one agenda — destruction.

Fifty Shades author, EL James, admits her unspoken agenda: “I wanted to demonstrate… I do not look at the world in terms of black and white — and I find people who do rather scary. I think it’s all shades of grey.”

Is anything black (wrong) or white (right)? How do we discern?

Clinical psychologist Dr. Juli Slattery and Dannah Gresh provide compelling, biblical answers in the godly book, Pulling Back the Shades – Erotica, Intimacy and the Longings of A Woman’s Heart.

One POWER-FULL example… Three questions to discern right from wrong in the sexual realm:

1) Does God clearly say no? (They list 10 clear NO’s with scriptural support).

2) Is it only between you and your husband?

3) Is it good for me/us? (Using Paul’s filter in 1 Corinthians 6:12 and 10:23-24 — Is it beneficial? Does it master me? Is it constructive? Is it loving?

Am I being too hard on erotica? What would Jesus say?

How might Christian business owners/CEO’s positively impact those in their spheres of influence?

Please post your comments below.

Diana Furr, a.k.a. Abba’s Girl

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