We take pills for all kinds of aches and pains. Headaches and backaches. Earaches and toothaches. Stomachaches and chest aches.
Even heartaches. Although some of the pills we take for that ache do us more harm than good… right, Lord?
But there’s at least one heartache for which we have no convenient pill. Neither the over-the-counter kind nor the prescription kind.
The heartache of Rejection.
If only we could take a pill for this, too! Sometimes it seems like we have… a bitter pill. Rejection can hurt, deeply.
Maybe that’s why You have been speaking to me about this a lot in the past couple of days, Abba.
I was in a two-day meeting with dear brothers and sisters who are also Christian business owners. In any conversation about business development, the topic of client development inevitably comes up.
The numbers are pretty interesting. For those who fear rejection, the numbers are pretty frightening.
One marketing “guru” claims we have to talk to ten people in order to get one client. (Some “gurus” say we have to talk to more!) That means most of them are saying “NO” to us in one way or another, at some point in the process.
Seen another way, that’s A LOT of REJECTION!!! 🙁
Maybe that’s why You have been trying to reorient my thinking about this, Lord. To think differently about those nine people who are statistically likely to say NO.
Shakespeare once said, “A rose by any other name would smell as sweet.” Rejection stinks. So maybe there’s another way altogether to look at my “encounters” with those nine people…
What if I looked at those nine, not only as potential clients, but especially as people You have given me the privilege of serving — of “touching” eternally, Lord… whether or not they ever become my clients?
That’s when it hit me. (Yes, I know, Abba. Sometimes Your “2 x 4” method of personal development is most effective… at least, with me!) 🙂
There’s one Scripture in particular that, by Your Grace, has proven indispensable to me through many hardships, both personal and professional. Hardships that might otherwise have gotten the best of me. Although it doesn’t promise any rose garden, it is dear to my heart… even now.
“Consider it pure joy… whenever you face trials of many kinds, because you know that the testing of your faith produces perseverance. Let perseverance finish its work so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything.” (James 1:2-4)
Except this time, You changed it. As if You — Great Physician that You are! — were writing me Your very own customized “prescription” to help me avoid much heartache.
“Consider it pure joy… whenever you face rejections from many prospects, because you know that: 1) your effort pleases Me; 2) I am making every prospect encounter fruitful for Me, so nothing is ever wasted; and 3) every prospect rejection means you are getting closer to finding the clients I have ordained for you.”
My effort pleases You, Lord?
“Whatever you do, work at it with all your heart, as working for the Lord, not for human masters, since you know you will receive an inheritance from the Lord as a reward.” (Colossians 3:23-24)
You are making every prospect encounter fruitful for You?
“Now to Him who is able to do immeasurably more than all we ask or imagine, according to His power that is at work within us, to Him be glory…” (Ephesians 3:20)
Every rejection means I am getting closer to the clients You have ordained for me?
“Consider Him who endured such opposition… so that you will not grow weary and lose heart.” (Hebrews 12:3)
Even so, there’s much more to this “prescription”… isn’t there, Lord?
Like being completely honest with You about my post-rejection feelings… and asking for Your help in redeeming those feelings and the thoughts behind them. (Psalm 139:23-24)
Like praying for the one who rejects me, and thanking you for the opportunity to have been Your servant in their life. (1 Thessalonians 5:16-18)
Like reminding myself of the many declarations You make in Your Word, Lord, affirming the Truth that I am Accepted, Secure and Significant because of my relationship with You! (Psalm 119:105)
All of which just spurs me on to KEEP GOING!
“Do not merely listen to the word and so deceive yourselves. Do what it says.” (James 1:22)
My Redeemer’s Rejection Rx!!! For immediate and “time release” relief!!! Dispensed with Your Unfailing Love!!!
Is there a Doctor in the house???
The VERY BEST… ALWAYS and FOREVER!!!